Think, think again.

I was browsing through shoppinglifestyle.com and this article about career and marriage caught my attention.

Will you choose career over marriage?
Good question indeed.

I mean at my age, my group of friends talk about career and marriage every single time we meet up. There would be no problem for a man to give an affirmative answer without second thought but for a woman, she needs to think, and think hard.

I had an interview with one of the firm in town couple weeks ago and so happened the partner asked me the same question. No, he did not ask, he told me why he should not trained a girl to be a lawyer unless i gave him a good reason to do so, not that he's sexist, he mentioned about woman's mother nature and things related to it.
To be honest, i had no reason, for that moment, disagree with his assertion.
*I still feel insulted now simply because not everyone wants the same as you, Mr.S, i respect you as a person who achieved so much but you're in no position to judge me and my future undertakings*

Then, i recalled that i told him about how sure i am to focus on my career till i become a successful lawyer and no conversation about marriage to be repeated cause i, somewhat, for those excuses i had in my thoughts, stress about it.

Now, read what the experts say,

These stars ( Interviewed with Hollywood actresses about this topic ) all seem to have one thing in common -- they're successful and have been happy to dedicate themselves to their careers to get to where they are -- but have they paid the price for this by leaving motherhood too late?

Relationship expert Lissa Coffrey, Ph.D., feels that this isn't necessarily the case: "We see a lot about the careers of these women, their successes, their films, but we don't hear a lot about their private lives. They probably have wonderful relationships, with friends, siblings, even nieces and nephews. It is possible to be successful and have lots of love in life. Many successful women have chosen to go ahead and have children on their own, but these women haven't. That's not to say that they couldn't go ahead and have children in their life at some other time. We're lucky today that there are so many options available to us".

But for those of us who are unwilling to give up our career, how can we at the same time leave the door open for a romantic relationship?

Joanne Mallon is a life coach and the Agony Aunt for AOL's ParentDish. She has this advice: "I think the crucial thing is that to be open to a relationship, you need to have space for it in your life. It's a bit pointless to moan about not meeting anybody if you are working 24/7 anyway. To achieve a sense of balance in life, we need to have a range of interests and priorities and not just be all about work, work, work." Achieve a healthy work-life balance by making it a priority to take time for the things that make life worth living for you. "This could include time with friends, a hobby, spiritual practise, exercise, voluntary work etc. The more fulfilled and happy you are, the more attractive you will become, and you just might find that you meet someone special without having to look too hard," adds Mallon.


So i conclude that,

Give me five years, another five years and i'll consider about marriage and changing my unwillingness of having babies.
But i did not take him for granted.
We both feel comfortable and happy with just and only two of us.